[Why do they all] CRASH OUT?

Dating Is Broken

Modern dating isn’t a fairy tale—it’s a minefield. Everyone’s sharing their heartbreak online, fueling a cycle of defensive attitudes and worse outcomes. With traditional communities gone, you’re left meeting strangers with mismatched expectations. People dive in physically and emotionally before defining the relationship, setting themselves up for confusion and pain. hoe_math breaks down why dating feels so painful today, and how to flip the script: communicate your intentions early, make sure the man and woman are invested, and own your choices before they own you.

0|44|Stories|Online Dating Stories|hoe_math discusses the rise of women sharing negative dating experiences online, noting a pattern where sad stories are more likely to be posted and seen, which in turn influences others' perceptions and behaviors.  
44|120|Loneliness|Male Loneliness Epidemic|The discussion shifts to the male loneliness epidemic, suggesting that both widespread loneliness among men and certain men having many dating opportunities can coexist due to changing social structures and community breakdown.  
120|180|Expectations|Dating Expectations vs. Reality|hoe_math explains how modern dating often leads to emotional attachment before relationship intentions are clarified, highlighting the pitfalls of online dating and the lack of clear, shared rules.  
180|240|Responsibility|Taking Relationship Responsibility|Advice is given to communicate intentions early and ensure mutual investment before becoming emotionally attached, emphasizing personal responsibility in navigating modern dating challenges.  
240|300|Resources|Charts, Website, and Book|hoe_math promotes resources such as relationship charts, a new website with multilingual clips, and a book of tweets, encouraging viewers to utilize these tools for better understanding.

0.0 Has anyone else noticed all these women who date men and end up crashing out online? 4.0 Yeah, I have, and honestly, I feel a little down about it today. 8.0 When I first clicked on one of those videos, I thought it would have a happy ending, but none of them do. 12.0 Two things can be true at once, sometimes more. 19.0 You're noticing more and more bad stories over time for at least two reasons. 26.0 First, the sadder your story, the more likely you are to post it online. 34.0 Second, the stories themselves are actually getting sadder as time goes on. 39.0 This creates a feedback loop—people see sad stories, get defensive, and then more sad stories happen. 49.0 So, what's your problem with it? It's making me question if the male loneliness epidemic is even real, or if it's just made up to make us feel bad for how men treat women. 59.0 This is a good example of what's called "female solipsism," which is basically egocentrism—she can't see the difference between her own life and the bigger world. 73.0 I've been tracking this for two years, making charts and even putting them in computer text to avoid my bad handwriting. 83.0 As society falls apart and we spend more time with strangers and less in communities, women get pickier because they’re naturally more selective with men they don’t know. 93.0 Most men can find a girlfriend in a community, but very few can impress women they just met, and we don’t have real communities anymore. 101.0 So again, two things are true: there’s a male loneliness epidemic among most men, but a small group of men have access to all the women and can use and discard them easily. 109.0 Let’s look at what that actually looks like. 111.0 My favorite example: "It’s so weird being treated well. He’s a perfect angel." She’s crying because she’s being treated so well, but then she finds out there were other girls the whole time. 123.0 She thinks, "Maybe this one will be it. I think I hung out with my future husband." She’s excited, he brings her flowers, she loves him so much, but then—he cheats. 136.0 Another one: "I love my boyfriend, he’s the sweetest," followed by, "I hope I crash." 145.0 All of this is mapped out on the situationship evasion chart. 151.0 Every one of these girls is getting attached before figuring out what the relationship actually is. 158.0 Then they ask, "What are we?" and the answer is never what they want. 164.0 People think dating works by just finding someone nearby, following obvious rules, and everything works out, but that’s a fantasy. 170.0 Real life: you meet people online from who-knows-where, nobody knows what’s right or wrong, and you get attached before even asking what’s going on. 182.0 That’s never going to work; it just leads to a mess. 186.0 What you’re supposed to do is talk first, figure out what you both want, and if you agree, get him to invest by giving you something he can’t give everyone (like a ring). 194.0 Only then should you get attached—not before. 200.0 Don’t just hope the guy you like doesn’t have other options, because if you like him, other girls probably do too, especially if you didn’t meet him through a stable community. 210.0 Men shouldn’t make these choices, but they do, and nobody stops them. 214.0 I did it myself—I didn’t even realize it was wrong for five years. I just wondered why girls kept getting upset when I hadn’t promised them anything. 224.0 So unfortunately, you need to take responsibility for your own choices, because no one else will. 234.0 If you meet a guy you like, talk to him first and make sure he’s invested before you decide you’re together forever. 241.0 If you want these charts, they’re in the description link on Fourth Wall. 246.0 I’ve also launched a website with clips of me in different languages, so tell your friends who don’t speak English. 254.0 My new book is out too—it’s a collection of my tweets. Everything’s in the link.

The translations and simplified transcript are based on translations of the original material, localized into multiple languages. Powered by PeakCreatorRoyalty.com under license with hoe_math.

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