Other Kinds of Love

The Hidden Types of Love No One Talks About

We think love is always about passion and romance—but it isn’t. hoe_math breaks down the overlooked kinds of love that shape real relationships: staying together for kids, fulfilling social expectations, or acting out of pure selflessness. By pulling from psychology and culture, this video shows why chasing only “passionate love” leaves blind spots—and how understanding these deeper forms of connection changes the way you see relationships forever.

0|12|Question|Zones and Attraction Chart|A viewer's question is summarized, asking how principles from the attraction chart apply to relationships beyond passionate or young love, including those based on practicality or long-term commitment.  
12|46|Types|Types of Love|The discussion outlines different kinds of love—romantic (Eros), playful (Ludus), obsessive (Mania), practical (Pragma), familial (Storge), and selfless (Agape)—and explains that not all love is based on personal desire or attraction.  
46|68|Framework|Relationship Needs and Zones|It is explained that zones and attraction are focused on needs-based, self-interest-driven relationship formation, and these are mapped to the "upper left" in the integral map, which represents internal experience.  
68|103|Quadrants|Integral Map and Social Norms|The speaker relates relationship types to the four quadrants of the integral map, contrasting individual experience with observable behavior and cultural or social expectations, including arranged marriages and family-driven unions.  
103|138|Limits|Limits of the Chart|The content acknowledges the chart's limitations in capturing all relationship types and hints at the complexity of including every form of love, suggesting a more expansive model may be needed in the future.

0.0 This question is about your attraction chart. 2.0 It's a great question about zones, and I really like these kinds of questions. 6.0 I love your content—it's really good and smart, and I like that too. 10.0 The question was a little long, so I'll summarize: she basically asks, how do these principles explain relationships other than young love? 15.0 Specifically, how do they explain relationships where people are together for other reasons, like old married couples who aren't together for romance or attraction? 24.0 These are the kinds of love that don't usually get talked about as much, but they're important. 30.0 Eros is romantic love—the kind you see in movies—and ludus is short-term, fun, sexual love. 36.0 Mania is an unhealthy mix of both. 41.0 What you're asking about are storge, pragma, and agape, which go beyond just personal needs. 46.0 Eros and ludus are based on desire, but storge, pragma, and agape are more about things like staying together for the kids or long-term partnership. 51.0 You're right—these other forms of love are important, and I should include them. 55.0 But if I didn't focus on the desire-based ones, you probably wouldn't know who I am, so for now, think of zones as being about relationship formation, needs, and self-interest. 66.0 In terms of the "integral map," zones is a map of the upper left—your internal experience. 71.0 The upper right is what you look like from the outside world, and the upper left is what the world looks like from inside you. 78.0 I recently argued with Macken Murphy—he's a scientist who focuses on the observable (upper right), while I focus on internal experience (upper left). 90.0 In our society, arranged marriages often include pragma, which is businesslike love—like families wanting two people to be together. 100.0 That would be the lower quadrants—what our culture does and the reasons for putting people together. 107.0 Charlotte W also talks about these forms of love and has her own charts about social norms and how they work. 113.0 So if all this is the knowledge humans have about relationships, psychology is just one part of it, and the attraction zones are only the "sexy" part. 127.0 There's only so much I can fit on one sheet of paper, and if I include everything, it becomes a whole cube-type situation. 136.0 Just bear with me—I'll get to those other kinds of love eventually!

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