0.0 So this question is for the men.
3.0 Present.
4.0 Let's say a woman sleeps with a hundred men.
8.0 Gross.
9.0 You call her a...
12.0 Whatever you want to say.
13.0 Maybe on the internet. In real life, we just stop responding.
17.0 A woman sleeps with her man a hundred times.
20.0 She's loyal. She's wifey. She's whatever you weirdos want to say.
31.0 What is the difference?
34.0 One of them is a...
36.0 I don't know. Like, are y'all just that stupid?
40.0 I don't know. I want to hear it from a dumbass standpoint.
44.0 Oh, well, from a dumbass standpoint, being a skank makes you disgusting. But you already know we feel that way.
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116.0 I don't know. I want to hear it from like a dumbass standpoint.
119.0 So, let me give you less of a dumbass answer.
127.0 When someone doesn't like something, that's the end of the conversation.
132.0 I don't know who told you that you're in charge of my feelings, but that's not it.
138.0 It physically doesn't work that way. Reality doesn't have room for that.
144.0 These are drawings of boundaries. I draw this over and over. This was the first one I ever made.
148.0 The yellow is a public space that they both are in. That's a bar.
152.0 And so, it's okay for the guy to start talking to the girl. But then when she says, "No, don't do that anymore," she's exerting a new boundary.
159.0 And if he continues to do it, that's a boundary violation.
163.0 So, what you are doing when you tell me what should be in my feelings is... hang on, I have to make a new one.
172.0 There you go. You're thought policing. You're taking your perceptions and feelings on the inside and telling me that they should also be mine, and you don't get to do that.
182.0 So, you can tell people not to do bad things to you. Like, for example, don't play music when I'm trying to sleep.
191.0 But you cannot take your feelings and say stop liking music.
198.0 You are not the police of how I feel.
201.0 I'm not saying that boys are in charge and we make the way things are. What I'm saying is God is in charge.
210.0 We all like what we like and don't like what we don't like and we have to deal with the way things are.
214.0 So you can't just tell men you have to like promiscuous women.
220.0 It just doesn't work that way.
222.0 Let me show you why. Imagine that you go outside and you go for a walk and you see that somebody did not clean up after their dog.
229.0 So, they felt like not cleaning up on the inside and then they put that into the space that you share.
238.0 How do you feel about that? Do you like it? Probably not.
241.0 Can you change it? Can you just go, "Oh, great. I'm going to rub this in my eyes." Of course not.
248.0 That's just how you feel.
251.0 Now, what if I made a TikTok nagging you about it?
254.0 This question is for the people who don't like dog.
259.0 Okay, let's say I walk my dog and I pick it up and throw it away. You say that's a good thing.
264.0 Now, let's say I bring my dog to your house and he goes on your pillow. Suddenly, that's a bad thing.
269.0 That is the difference.
272.0 So, you see, I'm thought policing you. There's something I want you to like, and I'm telling you, you should like what I tell you to like. Did it work?
281.0 Man, I sure hope not. In fact, it probably made you like me even less because if I want to put something bad in your life and you don't want it, then you will not like me.
291.0 This is an exercise I created called the association triangle. It shows how people create feelings in general.
304.0 What you just said to us is that if you want to sleep with a hundred guys and then another guy likes you after that, then you want him to be okay with this.
317.0 But we're not okay with it.
320.0 Men really hate this. In fact, most of us are going to hate this more than we like you.
327.0 Instead of feeling good about your choices, we're going to feel bad about you because you just said, "Hey, here's something that you hate. Let me rub it in your eyes."
340.0 I know you wanted the dumbass answer. Sorry about the smart answer. I hope you didn't hate it too much cuz it's just going to get less dumb.
347.0 Even though the answer I just gave you was good enough, that what other people like is none of your business, I'm also going to tell you why we don't like it.
357.0 Did you speak Chinese today by any chance? Probably not.
362.0 You spoke English yesterday, so you'll speak English today and probably tomorrow.
366.0 Have you ever eaten the same food more than once? Probably.
373.0 So, there are a lot of things that you do over and over. And if one of the things you do over and over is change the guy you're sleeping with, you're probably going to keep doing that, too.
388.0 If I know that you have been with one guy for a long time, then in the future, you probably will be with one guy for a long time.
397.0 But if I know that you switch guys often, this is about once every 3.2 days, then in the future, you will probably switch guys often. And again, we don't like that.
410.0 We do not want to spend time and money on you if you are just gonna switch guys.
417.0 It's weird that I have to tell you this. People don't like cheating.
422.0 And if you switch guys a lot, you're more likely to cheat. Women love to say, "Trust me. Ignore my behavior. I am wife material."
431.0 But why would we trust you if you are the least trustworthy kind of person?
437.0 Cheaters don't say, "I'm gonna cheat on you." They say, "Trust me." Everyone says, "Trust me."
442.0 So, how do we know who the cheaters are? Well, we have to observe your behavior.
449.0 This is the behavior cube. This is the church club axis. That's where you choose to spend your time.
454.0 This is the modest independent axis. That's how you present yourself to the world.
458.0 And this is the loyalty axis. That's how you've behaved towards men in the past.
463.0 Number of guys is a big sign. The more you have, the dumber it is to trust you.
470.0 Not everyone with a high body count will cheat, but more of them will.
475.0 You can see here that marriage gets less stable as body count goes up.
481.0 And yeah, sometimes people change, but not usually.
484.0 This story down here is one time I got to my motel 6 at 11:30 p.m. and some fairly cute girl saw me in the lobby and chased me to my car because I was once attractive and she gave me a palm reading and I said, "H, this is most likely a bad idea and I didn't do it."
504.0 And that was new for me at the time. That is change and most people don't.
510.0 So, if I'm going to offer you commitment, which is expensive, I need to know I can trust you, which I judge by looking at your choices, because there's no other way.
518.0 And if you've made a lot of bad ones, then I at least need to see that you've changed. And that takes more than 3.2 days.
525.0 So, body count is not everything, especially if she's honest about it and she hasn't done it in a while. And also, you know, maybe you're not perfect either, but I will never give any of my time or money to someone who says my past doesn't matter because what we did before we will do again.
548.0 And the more you do it, the less you're likely to stop.
551.0 So, the past doesn't just disappear. And tomorrow, today will be the past.
556.0 So, today doesn't matter. My behavior doesn't matter. Ignore my behavior. I'm gonna be here, but treat me like I'm here.
568.0 No one wants to buy a ring for someone who says, "Don't judge my behavior." Because you don't have to say that unless you know it's bad.
577.0 That's why any variation of "my choices don't matter" is one of the biggest red flags there is. Also, nose rings in whatever this is.
585.0 Are y'all just that stupid?
588.0 "My choices don't matter" is the same thing as "I am the table." It means I get what I want and shut up about what you want.
597.0 I'm here, aren't I? "My choices don't matter" comes in many forms. It might sound like "my past doesn't matter."
605.0 It could be "what's the difference between one guy and a hundred."
609.0 It could be "what I wear doesn't define me." That's what these girls said.
614.0 Just because I dress this way doesn't mean I'm not wife material. Even though dressing this way leads to attention and attention leads to temptation.
621.0 And no one is immune to temptation. It's just a matter of chance. And you know all that and you chose to dress this way and your choices define you.
630.0 In other words, just because I behave this way doesn't mean I behave this way. That's why she's got deception eyes.
638.0 And you don't have to listen to that.
640.0 If you are a younger guy with less experience, you've probably been told all your life to just be nice. Just be yourself.
647.0 And society says girls are nice and you have to be nice to them. Otherwise, you're being controlling and that's abusive and that can be confusing because it doesn't feel like you're being abusive.
654.0 It feels like you're being abused because sometimes you are.
664.0 Some women will just lie to you to see if you're smart enough to catch them lying. And if you're not, then they don't like you.
670.0 They will do things you should not be okay with and then tell you to be okay with them. Like this. Trust me.
677.0 So, these girls said dressing like this doesn't mean they're not wife material, but the more skin they show and the more often they go out, the more attention they'll get.
688.0 And the more they drink, the less they'll resist it. And so, the chances of something bad happening get higher and higher.
694.0 Then they say, just because I'm maximizing the chances of bad behavior doesn't mean I'm not wife material, even though wife material is someone who minimizes the chances of bad behavior.
707.0 So, you see what I mean over here? There's her visible behavior, which is easy to judge, and then there's this secret cloudy "trust me" in the mystery zone.
714.0 I can do all the bad things and still be good. Ignore my behavior.
723.0 This girl said, "One guy, 100 guys, what does it matter?" Well, what matters is, I don't want to be this guy.
729.0 I don't want to be guy number 99 buying you flowers 3.2 days before guy number 100 shows up.
738.0 So, look out for "my choices don't matter." I didn't do what I did. It doesn't mean what it means. Trust my words, not my actions.
747.0 That is only a test. And if you don't trust her, she'll say this.
754.0 Are y'all just that stupid?
756.0 But if you do trust her, she'll say this.
760.0 Are y'all just that stupid?
764.0 So, don't trust someone in the bad cube. Just find someone in the good cube.
769.0 Small announcement for those of you who watch to the end.
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773.0 I had an old merch store, but nobody went there.
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782.0 Store looks like this, and you can buy posters, t-shirts, mugs, and other stuff.
787.0 Tell me what designs you want in the comments.
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