hoe_math breaks down why guys are often better friends than boyfriends: friendships don’t come with financial demands. With friends, it’s simple—no one’s asking for cash. But dating is a different story. Modern expectations about equal pay clash with old-school dating rules. Women still want men who provide, but most guys can’t afford it. The result? Frustration, disconnect, and men checking out. Bottom line: it’s not about love—it’s about money.
0|6|Friendship|Men_as_Good_Friends|The episode opens with a question about why men are often perceived as much better friends than they are boyfriends, setting the stage for a discussion on gender dynamics in relationships.
6|30|Relationships|Friendship_vs_Romantic_Relationships|The speaker introduces the idea that being a friend is easier for men than being a boyfriend, hinting at underlying reasons related to cost and expectations.
30|88|Money|Financial_Expectations_in_Dating|A major topic is the financial aspect of relationships, with the speaker arguing that romantic relationships often cost money, which has become a problem as pay equality has increased and expectations have remained the same.
88|126|Imbalance|Changing_Dating_Market_Dynamics|The discussion shifts to how the dating market has changed: more women are seeking men who earn more, but fewer men fit that criterion now, creating an imbalance and making it harder for men to meet expectations.
126|172|FriendshipCosts|Cost_of_Friendship_vs_Dating|The speaker contrasts friendships and romantic relationships, emphasizing that friendships don't come with financial obligations, which is why men find it easier to be good friends than good boyfriends.
172|217|Affordability|Affordability_of_Relationships|The episode concludes by reinforcing that the core issue is money—men can no longer afford the financial expectations of being a boyfriend, due to economic changes and a long-term decline in earning power.
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1|267|42|L|It use to be that the average earnings of a man was much higher than women. Since women have a strong preference for more resources, it was easy to find men making more.
2|276|142|L|Prior to the wage equality fight, men and women were fairly different in earnings. Women at average earnings...
3|366|24|R|...would seek upward earning men, which were also at the average of the men's earnings. So there was a relative balance of "provider men" for women.
4|203|442|L|But after the wage equality fight, men and women are very close in earnings. But women still prefer men with more resources, this is why so many women are asking, "where are the good (higher-earning) men?"
5|350|386|R|Women at average earning, where many women are at,...
6|427|315|R|are now seeking men at the far right of the earnings curve. Whereas they used to be pursuing the peak of the men's earnings curve.
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1|278|90|R|Women throughout history have sought men who could "provide".
2|612|127|B|So men worked hard to support their wives and children. As a result, they typically earned more.
3|294|188|L|The Equal Pay advocates said this wasn't right. Why are men earning more?
4|296|318|R|The Equal Pay women demanded the government intervene and force equal pay.
5|515|449|R|Now many men can't be a superior provider. Thus, the date to "just meet for coffee."
6|229|439|L|Now many women are confused why they can no longer "find providers" and are "raising their standards."
0.0 I have a serious question for the men. Men only.
4.0 Why are y'all so good at being friends, but you suck as boyfriends? Please, we need answers.
11.0 I am so glad you asked. That is a fascinating question with a fascinating answer—sorry, this is for something else. And the answer, of course, is this: money. You know about money, don't you? I'm sure you remember it from the last time someone gave it to you for free.
27.0 The reason it's easier for us to be your friends is that it doesn't cost money. Relationships cost money. You know about money, right? Have you ever earned money? Did you ever have a job? Was it really hard? Me too. Did it pay enough? Me neither.
48.0 So, we don't have enough money to be a good boyfriend. We used to. We used to earn more than you. This would be the female average, and the male average right there. And you were looking for men who made more than you, which was easy when men made more than you. But you didn't like that—you wanted equal pay. And now that you have it, you are still looking, just like before, for men who make more than you.
75.0 So, when we made more than you, we could give you some of it, and that was the act of being a good boyfriend. Now that we make the same, we still have to give you some, which most of us cannot afford anymore because the average guy no longer has what the average girl is looking for.
101.0 This large number of women here, this tall line, is pursuing this small number of men here, this short line. Whereas before, the average woman who was looking for more than she had had a much higher percentage of men to pick from.
118.0 So, all of these dynamics, all of the stuff about how money has changed the dating market—those things do not matter if we are friends, because this is not what friends are. If I had a friend and it cost me money to be her friend, I would stop being her friend.
134.0 I have dated a lot of women. I have also had a lot of female friends. Do you know what the difference is? Number one, we don't. Number two, they never say things like, 'You never take me anywhere exciting.' You remember Robbie? He bought jewelry for his friend. That part of the relationship is missing.
150.0 I once had a really good friendship with a woman. She was married, they both had money, and I did not. So when we would hang out, she would buy things for me, because that's what friends do. That's why I was able to be a good friend—because it was not out of my price range.
172.0 Women seem not to understand that they cost money, that being a good boyfriend means transferring monetary value, and nobody has money anymore. It's been a relentless 50-year decline. We need answers. The answer is really simple.
190.0 Think about how hard it is for you to go to work and get paid enough to afford stuff, and then just remember that you are stuff that we can no longer afford. Men have to work. We do not just have magic money printers—at least not all of us.
208.0 So yeah, the answer is money. This is the situation now: you cost too much. We cannot do this anymore because we do not have this anymore. I hope that helps.
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hoe_math breaks down why guys are often better friends than boyfriends: friendships don’t come with financial demands. With friends, it’s simple—no one’s asking for cash. But dating is a different story. Modern expectations about equal pay clash with old-school dating rules. Women still want men who provide, but most guys can’t afford it. The result? Frustration, disconnect, and men checking out. Bottom line: it’s not about love—it’s about money.
order|x_px|y_px|Left_Right_Above_Below|text 1|267|42|L|It use to be that the average earnings of a man was much higher than women. Since women have a strong preference for more resources, it was easy to find men making more. 2|276|142|L|Prior to the wage equality fight, men and women were fairly different in earnings. Women at average earnings... 3|366|24|R|...would seek upward earning men, which were also at the average of the men's earnings. So there was a relative balance of "provider men" for women. 4|203|442|L|But after the wage equality fight, men and women are very close in earnings. But women still prefer men with more resources, this is why so many women are asking, "where are the good (higher-earning) men?" 5|350|386|R|Women at average earning, where many women are at,... 6|427|315|R|are now seeking men at the far right of the earnings curve. Whereas they used to be pursuing the peak of the men's earnings curve.order|x_px|y_px|Left_Right_Above_Below|text 1|278|90|R|Women throughout history have sought men who could "provide". 2|612|127|B|So men worked hard to support their wives and children. As a result, they typically earned more. 3|294|188|L|The Equal Pay advocates said this wasn't right. Why are men earning more? 4|296|318|R|The Equal Pay women demanded the government intervene and force equal pay. 5|515|449|R|Now many men can't be a superior provider. Thus, the date to "just meet for coffee." 6|229|439|L|Now many women are confused why they can no longer "find providers" and are "raising their standards."Interactive Masterpieces
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