Gender Drives Personality? [With Pearl]

What REALLY Separates Men and Women?

hoe_math dives into what really separates men and women: from hardwired biological traits to the way both sexes feel and see the world. You’ll hear why men and women can react totally differently—not just emotionally, but in how their senses take in life. They break down differences within each gender too, and takes a no-BS look at personality tests like the Big Five, MBTI, and Enneagram. You’ll get some honest takes on why these tests matter (or don’t), plus some real stories about test results that hit home. If you want a clear view of what makes people tick, and how you can use these insights for real self-understanding, this one’s for you.

0|20|Variation|Personality Variation|The conversation opens by questioning the link between gender and personality, acknowledging both biological differences and the spectrum of personality traits within each sex.
20|80|Perception|Gendered Perception|Differences in how men and women perceive things—like visual and emotional processing—are discussed, with examples about vision, hearing, and emotional sensitivity.
80|110|Emotion|Emotional Differences|The discussion touches on how women are more sensitive to negative emotion and how these differences might influence social dynamics, such as relationships.
110|200|Personality_Tests|Personality Tests Overview|The Big Five, MBTI, and Enneagram personality tests are introduced, including their scientific standing and the insights they offer about job fit and personal fears.
200|260|Self_Reflection|Personal Reactions to Tests|Personal experiences with personality test results are shared, highlighting emotional responses and the impact of being labeled by such assessments.

0 Know your gender, know your personality. Do you think that's true? Not true. 10 There is definitely personality variation within the sexes, if that's what he's talking about. But if he's talking about gender in the "woke" sense, like one of the 72 genders, then I don't agree. 20 There are things about men and women that are extremely consistent, even if people don't want to believe or deal with them. 30 For example, men can look straight at something in the fridge and not see it, because their eyes just work differently. 40 Pearl is surprised to hear this. 50 Women perceive color more and are able to notice new things in their visual field, while men look for where something is supposed to be. 60 So men open the fridge, look for the thing where it should be, and if it's not there, they can't find it. The wife will say it's right next to it, because she's scanning the area more broadly. 70 Vision, hearing, senses, and emotions all work differently between men and women. Women are more sensitive to negative emotion and more neurotic. 80 This might be why lesbian divorce rates are high—two women together can amplify negative feelings and direct them at each other. 90 Personality is hugely shaped by sex, but there's also a lot of variation within each sex. 100 Pearl asks for more details about the biggest variations in personality. 110 Hoe_math brings up the Big Five personality traits. 120 The Big Five is the only test validated by mainstream science, though that's debatable. 130 These five traits can predict a lot about you and your likely behaviors, and there's a lot of variation among people. 140 People tend to be high in either openness or conscientiousness, for example. Women tend to be more open, men more conscientious, and women are generally more neurotic. 150 He's not sure about which sex is more extroverted, but mentions there are other personality tests that aren't scientifically validated but still seem useful. 160 The MBTI (Myers-Briggs) does a good job of telling you what kind of job you'd enjoy and therefore be good at. 170 You're more likely to be good at something if you enjoy doing it. 180 The Enneagram is another famous personality test, more spiritual, and based on the seven deadly sins plus two more. 190 The Enneagram focuses on what your personality type fears most and what you move toward. 200 Hoe_math found the Enneagram very interesting and learned a lot about himself from it, even if he didn't like his result. 210 Pearl relates, saying she also didn't like the result she got from another test. 220 Pearl says she took Jordan Peterson's test a long time ago and was upset with her result. 230 Pearl says the test called her lazy—specifically, it said she was low in conscientiousness. 240 She didn't mind being told she was high in extroversion, but being called lazy bothered her. 250 Pearl insists she's not lazy, just upset about that label. 260 Hoe_math reassures her that she doesn't look lazy at all and is far from it.

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